Your brain has to do something. It can't shut itself off.
(unless you do it on purpose during focused meditation, for instance.)
If you don't remind yourself to feel good, which is your natural state of being, this is what happens:
If left to its own devices, your brain is going to settle on thoughts which are familiar.
Also known as your set-point, when you notice something that doesn't feel good, there's a virtual groove carved in your brain that your brain skips to, as if on a record with a large groove. Once settled into this groove, your thoughts don't vary from the theme.
There are different set-points according to the subject at hand, but there may also be an overriding set-point about your life in general.
You then receive a steady stream of thoughts which justify the feeling.
What? The thoughts justify the feeling, not the circumstance justifies the thoughts?
Ah hah! The thoughts justify the feeling. When you habitually skip to a thought of worry, for instance, your brain searches for reasons to back up this feeling.
In other words, the circumstance, or problem that has come to mind, has no current relevance other than to use as an excuse for feeling bad.
You remain on this train of thought until you get fed up with feeling bad and you accidentally pay attention to something that makes you feel better.
You feel better for a while, until something else catches your attention, triggers a negative thought, and off your brain goes to the negative groove.
This kind of life feels like an exhausting, powerless struggle.
Do you have a set-point of Worry? Or Overwhelm? Or Frustration?
The set-points may be diffferent for Work or Money or Relationships, etc.
A set-point of Worry attracts more things to you that make you worry. A set-point of Frustration does the same. A set-point of Overwhelm magnifies a feeling of scarcity and limitation.
Once you realize that the problems that seem to be making you feel bad are in fact the fuel your brain has chosen to feed a habit of thought...
You then become inspired to change the groove, or set-point.
Changing a set-point is easy.
1) Believe that feeling better will benefit you. (see Why Feel Better?, coming next)
2) Focus on a troublesome thought, make yourself feel better about it, and your set-point, or groove, is changed.
You can create a positive groove; one of love and appreciation and eagerness and unlimitedness and creativity. Keep raising your set-point on every subject that comes up and your life will be more joyous and exciting and enlivening and inspiring than you can imagine.